Thu, Jan-05-17, 04:38
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New Member
Posts: 6
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Plan: Keto
Stats: 320/294/130
BF:
Progress: 14%
Location: Oklahoma
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I think people can be as happy as their situation and mindset will allow. I've known many people who lost weight, or modified their bodies in some way, and they found that they still weren't happy. If we have to rely on the external to determine the level of happiness we're allowed to feel, then it will be difficult to feel happy for long.
Quality of life and quality of that happiness, on the other hand, is a bit different. We can only be so happy if we can't do what our bodies were made to do.. Move and express ourselves physically and dynamically in this world.
I'm obese, I've almost always been obese, but I've come to realize these things to be true and that's why I am changing. At my lowest weight, I was 160 around 16-17 years old. I worked my butt off, joined weight watchers.. and then at 160lbs my father accused me of being on drugs despite all the work he saw me put into losing.. I had no family support.. yadda yadda.. gained the weight back. I can blame everyone else until the cows come home, but the reality is that I let other people get in the way of my success, my self-image, my self confidence. (and the diet wasn't sustainable, but you know what I mean.)
This has always been an issue for me- letting other people psych me out. But I see that now, I've come to terms with it, and I know how to avoid it now.
I say all of that to say this: weight loss is a long, complicated, humbling journey of self-discovery for some of us and it takes 100% self-honesty to make it. and that requirement alone is enough to deter people from embarking on it. So people try to be as happy as they can in their current state, and a lot of those folks won't ever see the better happiness that lies beyond their comfort zone. Like the Chinese story of the Frog in the Well.. people don't know what they don't know, they have to find out for themselves.
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