Thu, Jul-10-14, 17:21
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Senior Member
Posts: 547
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Plan: Low carb
Stats: 352/332/240
BF:
Progress: 18%
Location: Nettleton, MS
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Let me take a step back I suppose - I understand the responses I got, because some of them are valid responses/reactions for people and will be beneficial for more than just me. And as I've said, I expected the cheating, leaving, whatever reasoning - yes, those I didn't like, even though I know that was not the reason at all.
Lucky26 said, doesn't it come down to just loving the person regardless of their size - for me and my wife, it does. We do. That's what I've been trying to get across, I think I have. I've had the impression that that wasn't the case, hence some of my defensiveness about it. I understand this is not the case with everyone.
I realize now also that no one said I had to stop losing weight - more it was presented that I had a choice now. No, I don't see it that way. I'm not finished, I don't have a choice. That's why I put it the way I did.
How can I help the process? Good question. But I think it's something I've done all along - continue to love her unconditionally, for who she is, show her that I love her, shut up talking about my diet so much, take the right opportunities to show her the benefits of my wol - all of them, my health, activity with my family, etc. I think this has been there all along, may just need to be emphasized here and there a little more strategically.
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