Um....... you know you could just ask her you know. In fact, I'm guessing you have but haven't gotten anywhere.

Since we're throwing out ideas without much to go on.... here is my take:

Your wife is perfectly rational and is right to be wary of you losing more weight. You're a kind, helpful, engaging person..... who has a steady job.... comes home at 6pm or at least you call when you don't.... who is frequently in contact with insecure or at least unfulfilled women on a weekly basis and you're becoming better and better looking. You were a catch before and now you're becoming more of one. Keep on losing weight and you will be tested by women who didn't test you before. Maybe she's not worried about her own insecurities but yours and is too kind to say so because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

I gotta admit - this has gotten down right comical!

Well if you want to be all succinct about it......

In what way? Are you laughing at other people's opinions?

Pretty much, yeah. Like I said, in not 100% what it is, but I know what it isn't. It's funny that people can take one statement from a relationship and judge 16 years of that relationship. Just my thoughts. I know I posted it - I expected the responses, I knew what I would get, but they've gotten funny now.

Well that's not good.

You asked, giving them a brief statement to encompass a relationship of 16 years. They had to fill in the lines you left blank. You can't fault them for not being able to read your mind.

Here's my take. She's been hiding from you for all these years that she is a closet cannibal. That book club? They're reading cookbooks for human flesh. She doesn't want you to lose more weight because you are getting too skinny to provide a satisfying meal for her clandestine cult of man-eaters. You're going to ruin their grand jubilee ritual on the next full moon. Think about your wife! They'll turn on her, and she'll be the main course. And you call yourself a good husband...

THAT is ridiculous...
Sorry you asked yet?

What's not good?

Jess, you may be right, though my money is still on whether she has a good insurance policy on him or not.
That is my "degreed" opinion.

Maybe he really did know and is purposely losing weight because HE has a hefty policy out on HER. Now that is juicy turnabout, eh?

Uh oh - anybody know how to delete a thread! Lol!

Oh dear! That's not it either then. Guess we'll keep guessing.

Psssst...communication works wonders.

GASP...I know! Aliens! I saw it on the History Channel.

If you are serious about deleting it, click on the "!" in the top right corner and make the request.

I've seen this particular scenario play out several times on this board. When anyone makes a drastic change in their appearance, there will be a shake up in the relationship. I think it will depend on the strength in the relationship to determine the outcome...and you and your wife's sound pretty solid.

No, wasn't serious. Was just poking fun about the insurance idea, that I had been found out! Ha!

And I appreciate the comments about the solid relationship.

I think what is really highlighted here is the anxiety many people have about too much change.

The change can be bad. The change can be good! For some, that doesn't matter.

I've seen so many people on this board whose friends and relations react to their transformation with negative emotions rather than positive ones. When they say, "Aren't you losing too much weight?" what they are really saying is "You look different."

We're all, "Heck yeah, that was the point," but to those who now have to realign their minds and "recategorize" us... the ones who, it must be said, didn't have to hunt down clothes or worry about fitting into public seating or deal with painful or worrisome medical problems... all they know is we've changed. Maybe they don't like change!

Whether we were shy or embarrassed or just didn't share details with these folks, they are being made uncomfortable, in ways they don't even understand, by our changed appearance, demeanor, attitudes, and lifestyle. Remember all the times we felt self-conscious about saying "Hold the toast" or not diving into the mac salad at a social event? We worried that those around us felt self-conscious, too. And maybe they do.

But one way or another, they will just have to deal. Because I don't see any reason they can reasonably ask us to downgrade our appearance, health, and prospects just so they don't have to do a little mental readjustment.

We are working far harder on this than they are!