Tue, Feb-04-14, 02:08
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Senior Member
Posts: 591
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 216/186/140
BF:
Progress: 39%
Location: Alberta, Canada
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Originally Posted by Whofan
Yes, hindsight is 20/20, but when one man and several angry women (mothers no less!) are in a room together how is it he was allowed to walk out of there after saying "boys will be boys"? This isn't the 1950s, women don't have to be polite and ladylike with men anymore if the men in question are assh*les. Maybe you all weren't angry enough, but I'm astonished you didn't bar his way, and keep him there until he said he understood the gravity of the situation - because you are absolutely right, he is growing an abusive, sociopathic little freak in his own home! Men HATE being harangued by women, so even if he still didn't get it, at least you would have shown him that women and their daughters can fight back, so watch out! If you get another crack at this guy, I suggest you and the other women have a game plan ready so he feels some heat next time.
Bullying and cruelty make me so angry that I just have to do or say something when I come across it. It's amazing how quickly bullies back off - they are all cowards, just call 'em on it, you'll be surprised.
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Please don't mistake. That man received a very long and detailed description of the type of behaviours that wouldn't be tolerated by any of us in regards to our children (since the boy has physically hit and pushed a few of the other girls, in addition to the verbal problems). I made it more than clear to him that, while my daughter won't start a fight she damn well knows how to finish one. She has been taught to never become a punching bag for someone else. She may be skinny, but she is 8-10 inches taller than the other kids her age....and she has demonstrated with her brother that she can hold her own. He was informed by the principal that expulsion from school was likely if the boy continued to physically bully anyone else. our meeting lasted two hours, and everyone was given a chance to speak: the father chose to say very little. Even when prompted for input or asked for information. I didn't think it necessary to outline the entire circumstance here, my point was merely that, after receiving all the information, his response was so minimal and disdainful towards us. Like we were in the wrong. It was a similar demonstration in my opinion to the OP, that there are many parents in this world who aren't very good humans, and unfortunately most of their offspring turn out just like them, as in the OP's situation where a mother would condone and participate in her daughters abuse of another woman. I must say I do scoff a little at the thought of barring his way, until he what? Gave in and apologized? We'd have been in that room far longer than 2 hours, since I have a feeling he's not that type of a guy. Not to mention the fact that we weren't there to gang up and bully him. We were adults hoping to constructively work on a solution (honestly we assumed he had no idea his son was acting in such a way) so that our kids could coexist more efficiently. I doubt I'm in a position to forcibly confine someone until he concedes to my demands. Regardless, my parenting abilities weren't really the point here, but more so that adults who are awful people are far more likely to raise more awful people, and that they usually aren't very old (5!!!) before they start to exhibit the type of behaviour they've been conditioned to. I agree with OjOj, it's a good learning experience for my daughter, and for me. Just didn't think it would be this soon is all.
To the OP - bullies are everywhere. Humans thrive on judging one another. Women judge other women for being moms, not being moms, being too fat, being too thin, working too hard, being lazy, when we should stand up for each other, support each other through good times and bad, help one another to be healthy and happy. Im terribly saddened you had to experience that type of negative filth, and hope you can let the memory of those women rest in the dirt at your feet where they belong.
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