Um... you've totally lost me. I have no idea what you were reading into that comment.

I'm saying that it's better to be a little paranoid than a little in denial.

Okay, I got it!

I know exactly what you are going through. My BF is a police officer and my goodness, the women around here are ridculous! He says I'm like a little "bulldog" anyway and no one is going to come around when I am there. I hate it though that I know women that I have aquainted myself through his friends are hitting on him when I am not around... it happens and I am not going to go everywhere with him. We have been together for over 6+ years, so I had to really deal with my trust issues from previous relationships. You sound like you have it together and I was just venting. At least your irratant is skinny; the "B" I deal with the most is 300+ lbs and hurtful to the eyes! What an insult! The joke is- If he ever cheats on me, it had better be with someone a step up from me. (Now that would be hard to find, I am fat, but oh so sexy!!)

I'm hard-pressed to think of a circumstance where it would be proper to send another woman's husband some brownies. Unless it involved an illness or death in the family is about all I can come up with. And even then, it would be directed to the FAMILY and not the husband. KWIM?

I think your annoyance is justified, mamandwife, not because of trust issues. The fact that she ignores you and pays attention to him is, at the very least, not proper, b/c of your position as his wife and the lady of the house.

But then again, you guys know me...I'm very old-fashioned!

I agree with what Elle said - she's right about this.

Usually if a guy's single no one really notices him but when he's with a woman, or it appears that he is, other females become interested. He simply becomes more attractive, probably because he's proven his worth, so to speak. After all, all the good men are already taken.

For example, one of my friends has a male friend who just got married. She's known him for years and wasn't interested in him at all, but once he was married she felt jealous. She was mildly disgusted because he's really not someone she'd want to be with. I just chalk it up to human biology.

That's no excuse for rude behavior though.