From my own experience, high carb food 'works' to shut down my emotions. That's the trouble - it actually works to smooth things over, make me a bit sleepy and sluggish, and as a result, I don't feel what I feel quite as much.
With regard to reasons and excuses, I think that if we're talking about something in the past - there are reasons, and perfectly valid explanations. For instance, if I fell off plan on a particular day - then it's good to tell myself, "You did the best you could under the circumstances."
This prevents the person living in my head from taking over too much. If I keep telling myself how bad I am for having screwed up - for something that happened yesterday, last week or even five minutes ago, it doesn't bode well for the present or the future. I simply cannot do as well if I'm constantly berating myself for having failed - and the thing is - the 'failure' is in the past. By being mean to myself about my so-called failures, I'm allowing something from the past to influence my present and by extension, my future.
I don't want to make the fact that I'm human and screw up pretty regularly mean something more than it means. If I messed up yesterday,
it doesn't mean I'll screw up today. Yesterday was yesterday, and there isn't a whole lot I can do about it. Ranting and raving in my head about how awful I was yesterday practically guarantees that today will be just like yesterday.
Here's another take on it...
A long time ago, a good friend of mine once asked me, "Sara, which five minutes of your life would you like me to judge you on?"
What she was saying was why should anyone zero in on a particular day, or a particular week or month - when it's the whole body of work that counts. Good days and bad days. If someone is going to judge me (including myself), are they only going to focus on the minor day-to-day mistakes? Or will they look at the whole picture?
Getting back to the idea of reasons and excuses - I must admit that I've been struggling with getting on my treadmill. I have a new treadmill that I received for my birthday last spring, and the first few times I got on the thing, I overdid it and ended up really lightheaded, and feeling faint. Scared me, and made me think I shouldn't use the thing. Went to the doctor, everything checked out fine - it was just that I'd overdone it.
I haven't gotten back on it.
I'm not sure if my lightheadedness/faint feeling is a 'reason' or an 'excuse'.
Truth be told, I think it's more like fear. Fear that it'll happen again, or maybe even....fear that I'll get through it and start becoming fit.
And then what?
I'll probably be expected to do a whole bunch more things.
Like appear in public in a bathing suit. Or participate in games in the backyard or what have you.
Speaking of excuses - I strongly suspect that I use my extra weight and my useless 2006 (didn't lose any weight really), as an excuse for not living.
Being able to write in this great thread of yours is bringing up a few more 'aha' moments.
It's like - if I succeed, then I'll be expected to show up more. Be something more than I am, or somehow better. So really, in this respect, fear of success (for me) is more about fear of failing. Having to do things I might not otherwise do, of people expecting better of me. Of me expecting better of me.
Geeze....
The whole thing really is just an excuse isn't it?
But then again, I still stand by my idea that when we're talking about something in the past, we should always strive to be kind to ourselves about it, so as not to let the little failures along the way become some sort of self-fulfilling prophecy or something.
Gah...now my head hurts.