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Originally Posted by ItsTheWooo
The bottom line is the number one factor distinguishing the TDCers who make it to goal from the TDCers not, is more often sacrificing more.
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I can’t talk about the other TDCers, only about myself, but that is exactly why it’s working this time for me on a whole different level than any of the other two times I’ve done low carb. The pain of being fat is too much for me to bear anymore, and whatever the personal sacrifice, I’m going to get myself out of it and stay out of it this time. Whatever I have to do (short of anything illegal, obviously
) I will do it, and gladly, because I can’t stand another day of the pain and misery I went through and go through being fat. Advice is great, once you give it to me, I can either use it or discard it as I see fit, but like it or not, it won’t “ring true” if you haven’t been there. Until you’ve stood where I’ve been and had your own family tell you you’re so disgustingly fat to them that you won’t be invited to family functions, don’t expect me to boohoo with you over your chicken legs and small bust
That’s why I “hang out” in the TDC forum, mostly. Other people (fat, skinny, maintenance, newbie, everyone) can give advice that I may or may not use, but my people in the TDC get, on a fundamental level, what I go through every day in a way others can’t. It isn’t to say that others’ opinions are invalid, or that they can’t sympathize, but if they’ve never been mooed at when they’re walking to their car, will they understand the shame of it? Nor would I understand being an African American single mom- I can empathize all I want, but it isn’t the same- how could it be?
I, like Woo and others, have been both. I have been so skinny I was accused of having eating disorders (which, eventually, became true, but wasn’t in the beginning) and I have been so fat that I’ve been treated as a lump of dirt under someone’s shoe. All I can say in my experience is the “pain” I went through being skinny and being teased was not even LIGHT YEARS close to the pain I felt and feel from the way I’m treated being obese. Before I was teased because I was envied, now I’m teased because I’m pitied.
I try my hardest not to “exclude” anyone, because G-d do I know how it stings, but the fact is that society has been based on “groups” since the beginning of time and will be. It’s only natural I would take the advice of someone in a similar situation as me to have more merit than someone who has never been overweight who has like, 10 pounds to lose.