Heres a little of my story in OA:
First of all, my first meeting was in 1988, I was 37/38 yrs old and was gaining due to overeating from anger/stress/anxiety/fear.....my therapist at the time kept telling me that I had to stop gaining....I was pushing 200/215 lbs....she kept telling me to go to OA meeting ....and I always had tons of excuses. That wasn't me!! Thats not my problem...I am not really that big!! blech....I was in such denial.....I did go to a meeting and sat in the back and refused to connect with anyone. I still did not relate. and I still had tons of excuses. and I was still hysterical about the fact that I was gaining weight and could not stop eating.
By the time I hit 39 yrs old, my weight had gotten to 250 lbs. I then spent the better part of that year getting my weight to an all time high of 287 lbs. and I was still in denial that I had a problem......then began the stream of diets.....optifast....medifast....weight watchers 5 times....nutrisystem....jenny craig.....fenfen....and the list goes on and on...I kept losing and gaining the same 50 lbs over and over again. and I was still in denial......
By the time I was 45 yrs old, I weighed 240 lbs and was happy to not be 280!! an ex BF had contacted to take this bovine crap before bedtime as it helped you to lose while you slept!!
geeezzz...I'd fall for any gimmick!! I was trying to use and and also sell it when I met a woman who was short and overweight.....I was helping her with her puppy. I told her about the bovine crap and she laughed at me!! She told me that she doesn't torcher herself about her weight and that she was not interested in the product. I begged her to tell me what she meant!! She finally told me about her program in OA....I asked if I could go to a meeting with her and so I went...and went again....and again.....because I was desperate....I had hit my bottom....my life was in a shambles...I was on the verge on bankruptcy, I had lost my business and could not find a job...I did not have money for food and my father turned his back on me. He was ashamed of me....I was in terrible emotional pain about my situation. things were looking very grim....
I started to pray to St Jude...the patron saint of lost causes. I'm a Jew so this was a stretch for me. But I didn't care so I prayed on.....for help, for answers....and I got help and answers but not in the way I had expected!! I stumbled across a book at that time, an astrology book on Pluto problems. Pluto is strong in my chart so I bought the book with my very last $10-. When I got home, there was $40- waiting for me that someone had owed me. I took this as a sign that I was on the right track. as I read the book, I felt like the author was talking to me!! She said to go to 12 step recovery...as I was already doing. So I kept going and asked my new friend to be my sponsor. She agreed but only if I did exactly as she told me. I agreed and became her sponsee...
I had to go to 90 meeting in 90 days. I had to call her everday and tell her what I had eaten the day prior. I had to keep a written log of my food. I had to give up something, one thing of my choice so I let go of sugar. She told me that I could have 3 meals a day with 2 snacks....no seconds on the meal, just what was on my plate. She was giving me the boundaries that I could not give to myself. I was so very grateful for this. I did exactly as I was told!! I learned the program...I became abstinent....as I worked the program, I let go of more things. I became committed to the FAA food plan as my sponsor was. FAA is no sugar, no flour, no wheat. I quickly figured out, as any good carb addict would, that I could still eat potatoes and rice and I did!! I lost weight and got down to 210!! There are wonderful tings about OA....the things that helped me the most were the education I got about my compulsive eating, the insanity of dieting and diet pills....its not about being on a diet. I got that finally!! I had to stop trying to diet because any changes that I made had to be permanent.
stuff happened...my dad passed away in 1998, my sponsor made a big mistake and our relationship fell apart because of it. I was so disappointed and hurt....I let my whole program go. My weight went back up one more time...this time to 274....six years later and having encountered yet another, what I thought, failure, I was once again facing the daunting task of tackling my morbid obesity.
sigh But this time I had learned things that I did not forget....When I first heard about South Beach, I knew it was something that I could live with. I was ready to make a change!!
During the 6 yrs after OA, I spent years in therapy, examining the things that I ate over. I n ow have knowledge of my triggers that I didn't have before. I now know what to do when I feel like doing damage....I seek a friend to vent to....I write about it....I find another person to vent to and write some more....I thought that I had it under control...that nasty demon inside me....truth be told...he lurks beneath the surface ready to pop up at the least bit of provocation.
Even after being on this plan for over 1 yr...I had to see my sister last month. I thought that I'd be OK but I wasn't. What I thought was a carb up cycle..turned into a junky carb fest!! When I found myself putting hand to bag to mouth to bag to mouth to bag to mouth....I suddenly caught myself!! It was so compulsive that I was shocked!! I took that bag and dumped it down to garbage disposal. I was glad that I was able to do that. It was not my sister's fault....she didn't do anything wrong. Just being in her presence dredges up all those feelings of being a failure and worthless, unlovable by my very own family. The further I get from her, the better I am. I spent an entire year in therapy dealing with the guilt of estranging myself from her. It was the right thing for me to do.
so this is a small part of my eating/dieting history. I have been where you all are now. If I come across too strong, I'm sorry!! I am passionate about this subject and have been there. I know the demon well...I am his worst nightmare...when a light is shone on him, he fights back!! I know this. Please know that I'm supporting all of you in this fight.
Group hug!!