Ow. Yes, I think he's hinting, but in a very clumsy and clueless way. Over only 40 pounds? Really; in my opinion he's got issues that he's trying to blame on you. Why not just discuss your weight and health and how it impacts your lives?
Start the discussion yourself, if you wish. And is he one of those people who can inhale an entire cake and not show it, or is he adding some, too?
Here's a favorite website to take the whole family on this health journey:
Paleo Parents
They were both overweight and had health issues; and their children were starting to mirror their own difficult childhoods. They turned it completely around and are much happier and feeling better, than they ever have before.
All too often, we blame ourselves for "our" weight problems when it is our toxic food environment. If we have children, who after all might have inherited these same metabolic responses to the junk food that surrounds us, we have to think of them, too.
I'm here to tell you, attractiveness is in the mind. My own husband still found me attractive before, during, and after I gained and lost over sixty pounds.
You aren't the only one responsible for the
spark; it takes two.