Good point, I think you're right.



Those are rotten experiences. Sadly, females of every size, shape, and age have met crass womanizers. Some women might, maybe, have more traditional-seeming dates with more subtlety, but no heterosexual guy has ever asked a woman out on a date because he wants to buy her food and talk to her. The world is full of mangy dogs. Which is why I'm so picky. Feeling pressured to sleep with someone or lose him is the biggest turn-off for me. It guarantees I won't be sleeping with him any time soon! It just confirms that he isn't as perfect as I thought he might be, so losing him isn't going to be a big deal. I just met someone who seems amazing but I have an instinct that the pressure thing is going to happen very soon. If so, it'll be sayonara.

Oh shoot, old thread!

Oh don't get me wrong. If a guy just wants something casual and is up front about that it really doesn't bother me when he's a single guy my age. Although, hitting on a woman more than half your age while your wife is distracted...yeah, no. That is just completely classless.

My point was more of that some guys aren't actually as disgusted by extra weight as we fear they are, but even among those who aren't some still use it as an excuse to keep a woman at a distance. So the guy the OP mentioned may have been horribly shallow about appearances, but it sounds more like he actually just wanted sex and used her weight as an excuse to bail when he realized she wasn't looking for a hook-up.

s-piper: I get your point. Interesting that no men have chimed in on this thread. Pity. There's so much the honest ones could add to the discussion.

Doesn't matter -- if anyone looks, they will find plenty of good advice!

The way I see it, there are three things everyone is vulnerable about, no matter who they are or what the facts might be.

For a woman, it's being told she needs to lose weight.

For a man, it's being told he's not masculine enough.

For an actor, it's being told they are over-acting