Wed, Jun-13-12, 15:58
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Senior Member
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 217/145/143
BF:
Progress: 97%
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One thing which might help is to sound them out about how long you might be going along for, so you can go a bit better prepared. You could mention about the diet and ask if it'd OK to bring some boiled eggs and some mayonnaise, or some cheese, so you aren't tempted to break your diet.
Another thing which would help is if you challenge your feeling of guilt when you kept refusing the snacks. You have worked so incredibly hard and lost so much weight, and you need not feel guilty about wanting to stay on plan. Perhaps writing your feelings of guilt down, then writing down alternative viewpoints will help you to come to this realisation for yourself. The technique is one taught in cognitive behaviour therapy, and it's really useful for dealing with issues which trigger guilt and other negative emotions.
You have done incredibly well to have achieved the progress you've made. Would you feel able to just explain to your friends that your diet has probably saved your life, and that you need support to stay strong, because carbs are like cocaine to you.. so please can they not tempt you? Could you explain that you really don't miss the food any more, and that it's the company you enjoy.. but if they want to treat you, then cheese would be really great for you. If you find yourself there at mealtimes, then when they're making the sandwiches, ask if you could have the filling on it's own or a couple of boiled eggs instead, and explain that you're off wheat. I know that it is difficult and depending on people's patience, it might not go down so well.. but in my experience, most people are pretty understanding about my restrictive diet.
I think that finding ways of staying on the plan and coping with temptation and other issues is part and parcel of the weightloss journey. You've obviously come a long way already, so good luck with the next stage.
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Originally Posted by Invictus
My Sundays always start with breakfast downtown, with friends. I always look forward to it, mostly because I find few things so pleasurable as the combination of good food and good company. This past Sunday's breakfast ended with a movie invitation: I agreed to come over to my friends' home at 12:30. I didn't know if we'd be having lunch, so I had a little snack (cheese, olives) to tide me over just in case. As it turns out, my friends eat two meals on Sundays...one mid-morning with me, and one in the late afternoon. In between, they snack on all MANNER of dangerously tasty things.
Despite being somewhat peckish as we got into the movie, I steadfastly declined all offerings of various crackers, chips, and so on. My friend seemed determined that I should eat SOMETHING, though, and so an hour into the movie he visited the kitchen and came back with three napkin-fulls of cookies: one for him, one for his wife, and one for my lap. Four chocolate chip and white-chocolate chip cookies, on my lap. Oh, boy.
I'm usually good with temptation, but what to do with four cookies on my lap? I felt somewhat guilty for repeatedly turning down his offerings of hospitality, and...well, I really like chocolate chip cookies, so I had one. I thought, "Well, I won't have dessert tonight." (I like a cup of milk and something small but sweet after supper.) Then I had another, because they were really QUITE tasty. Remembering breakfast, where I'd indulged in a biscuit with honey in addition to the 'good' (carbless/low-carb) food, I decided I'd better do damage control as I could. I covered the cookies up with my napkin so they would not tempt me. But a half-hour later, my friend went to the kitchen and came back with more cookies, swiftly depositing them on our "empty" napkins. I now had six cookies in my lap. Annnd I ate one. I knew I was over the limit by this point, so when he went to the restroom, I put the cookies in my pocket, figuring I'd have them throughout the week. But when we put another movie on and he offered triscuits, I tried a few because they were dill flavored. I wound up staying for "lunch" at 4, subway-type sandwiches, which signified the total destruction of my low-carb ambitions for THAT day.
I gained two pounds. In a day. How do you manage to refuse hospitality in cases like this? I managed to last an hour or so, but once my resolve began crumbling it broke almost completely.
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Last edited by Kirsteen : Wed, Jun-13-12 at 16:07.
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