I am a severe asthmatic. I have been hospitalized probably more than 30 times in the last year due to a sudden allergy triggering my asthma symptoms, and I have recently been told I am very allergic to cigarrete smoke. My honey is a smoker and will not quit my doctor tells me I will not improve if I don't get him to quit. What will make him stop for God Sake he is literally killing me and he tries but soon gives up . My doctor has even told him to stop. I just don't know what to do. I know he loves me and he feels bad about the smoking but I may have to end our 4year relationship if it is going to cause so many medical problems.

It is time to give him an ultimatum, quit or you're gone. Asthma is a serious problem and if triggered by smoking, the smoking has to go. This could well be a life or death situation, and you must protect yourself.

Senovia, if your SO knows how serious his smoking is in triggering your asthma and that a bad attack could kill you and still will not stop, then I'd say it's time to bid him goodbye.
At the very least, you might want to ask yourself why you are staying in a relationship with someone whose behavior is putting your life at risk.
I agree with Mike; it's time to give him an ultimatum: either quit or leave.

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Can't he or won't he smoke outside? then he's getting his fix and your getting your clean air, this seems fair enough to me! if he's not prepared to do this, then I think he is just selfish, its up to you at the end of the day your health or this relationship! good luck in your choices

What an awful position to be in

The truth is that you can't make him stop. If he's fully aware of the implications of his smoking to your health and won't at least smoke outside, then he's making choices and it's time for you to make choices too

I wish you health.

You can't make him quit, it has to be his choice. I know it is difficult to quit smoking, but it can be done. I am living proof!!! I was an alcoholic and smoker. I quit both and have been clean and sober for 92 days now. I just didn't buy any more, that's how I quit. No patches, gum, etc. I wanted to be healther and lose weight and I have! It's a wonderful feeling.

I think if he won't quit that you have to make the choice to quit him. It's that simple. There are other fish in the ocean honey and someone out there will respect your health issues.