I asked BF how he thinks of women in the barns, before and after me. He told me he would stare all night at the "Tuesday night F***." He was never rude but he didn't want anything to do with them. He said they looked slutty, and were vying for attention. He says theres a difference between sexy-hot and slutty. I asked if I dressed slutty, he said, "no, I wouldn't let you out of the house looking slutty." He then told me that, "you looked sexy-hot when we go out. You have enough confadence that you walk in the door, you don't vye for the attention, you don't have to work for it." He told me thats sexy.
Imonmyway~ I tried a stapless bra with this dress, but it showed the top of the cups on the bra. It was lacy, but I'm unconfortable with showing the bra. I agree, either leg or cleavage, not both, thats why I bought those tights. A little bit of a cover up. I had issues when I bought that dress if it showed to much, thats why I asked for opinions. Everyone has different idea, I personally don't mind showing some skin.
I'm 35, and with a little underwire, I still have it. I'm happy that I look as good as I do (my mother still looks good through 2 back surguries and weight ups and down, just some grays thats barely noticable) I'm not afraid to show the world, I'm confadent enough to pull it off. But, I do agree there is a time and a place for everything. I'm going to try out different types of strapless bras and see what works with that dress. I don't really have much of the revealing type clothes. I have a handful of tops that I safety pin the top together, just enough it doesn't show the bow on my bra.
I think guys are so used to so many women being easy, espesially in the bar scene, they think most of us are "Tue night f***." I went out, without BF last fall, I wore jeans and a tank with a light long sleaved shirt over it. I got hot, probably the alcohol, and I took off the long sleaved shirt. My friends were their with me, the place was fairly busy for the Legion. I got noticed but for a long time I was left alone. I stepped outside for some air and a guy (not a local) aproached me. We visited, I made it clear I was taken. He kept pushing to dance, I told him it was inapropriate for me to dance with him, I was taken. He just didn't take a polite "no" for an answer. A vollenteer firefighter buddy of my BFs sat next to me then, to "protect me." LOL,
The only person that thought I was a screw for the night was that out of towner. I personally think he would have taken anyone back to his camper. Finally, BF got done coon hunting and showed up. The guy sat there and watched me dance with BF and go home with him. No other guy in the bar gave me more than glances, they were polite, and being locals new me well enough. I had mens attention, but there was nothing slutty going on. I don't think I looked slutty, I looked good. Just because a woman looks good does not mean men need to act like asses, they need to grow up themselves and stop aiming for a one night stand. But, when women give it up so easy why wouldn't they?
When I was younger, in my 20's, I got attention. Once I turned down a few guys, I was usually left alone. I don't care If I wore a T shirt and blue jeans, or a short top and a skirt, I had a lot of offers. Why can't a gal go out without getting tackled, groped and treated like she's a slut? I've never dated a guy I met in a bar, never gave out my number, and defanitely no one night stands. I've seen so many guys act badly, its amazing women allow it.
The way they act has nothing to do with my clothing, if more women slapped hands and ment it, they woun't be such jerks.
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