Mon, Dec-29-03, 10:30
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Senior Member
Posts: 1,497
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Plan: Protein Power
Stats: 171/135/140
BF:
Progress: 116%
Location: Fredericton, NB
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Thanks so much!
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Originally Posted by osuzana
Hey Bonnie,
Went looking to see where your last post was, and I'm sorry to say I found you here and so sad.....along with Colleen.
Been there done that...about 10 years ago. My 3 kids were all young and I was scared to death....Took a lot of crap, and thought I would die from heartache and the rejection. I left with the 3 kids...went to my parents in Florida, Thank God they were there for me ....it saved the marriage. He never expected me to leave...then when I decided I wasn't coming home, he freaked!
Called everyday begging....I let him beg...I was devistaded! The affair was going on for a year and everyone knew but me.
I waited another 14 days and then gave in and went home ....The change was immediate...but the ache is still there, when thoughts come flooding back at times. We are still together, with a much improved marriage. I will say this, I forgave him....But I found it impossible to forget!
Bonnie if you need me I'm here, PM me if you want... You have been my favorite person here, and you have helped me, with my sometimes sadness. I'm here and I have a good ear, especially for a fellow Capricorn.
Your friend, Susan
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Wish that I could say we will be reconcilling in some way but on the other hand have found out recently that he has been doing this discreetly behind my back since 2000...I have too much self respect to even consider taking him back now especially with all the bar trash he has been with...I do not want to wind up with a disease...he went from a well respected business man to one now hanging around the bars picking up low life...not the lifestyle for me...I value my son, my grandchildren too much to ever hurt them and he seems so unconcerned as to their feelings or in that case mine in this matter...I could have taken him back when this all started but he lied to me every step of the way and I do not want a man who has lost his morals, credibility, and repect...the ironic thing is the woman he is seeing now does not know he is still in the bars looking for something a little higher up the chain...she is the dregs of the dregs and he met her in a bar.... the only thing I am facing now is the lonliness of not having my partner around and it is very tough as I am alone in this house but I will get through somehow as I am a strong individual...just so tough this time of year...he has drained all the accounts and left me to fend for myself...I have run out of oil three times and unbeknownst to me the bills were not paid and I have to be on a cash only bases...we still have the big ticket assets like a Viper, BMW convertible etc. and have begged him to sell these for cash but so far no action...he seems to having a great time spending money but I am living with my Mom during the day just to share expenses and eat...thanks again hon for your kind words and concern...B
Last edited by Bonnie : Mon, Dec-29-03 at 10:37.
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