Hi everybody,

I am about to turn 60 and am 5'3" tall, weight is 105 lbs. Yes, I have facial wrinkles, but have had those for a long time Anyway, I'm feeling great about my weight but several of my friends/acquaintances give me a hard time about:

* Did you know that being too thin at OUR age can really show in your face?
* You look emaciated.
* Your weight would be okay if you were younger but...

One of my friends said the first thing after initially telling me that I look great and then asking if I had lost more weight.

Instead of making excuses for my "thinness," I responded that I'd rather have a fit body, the heck with the wrinkles which I have anyway and which don't seem to have gotten any worse).

Well, anywat my point is: I'm getting really ticked at people (most of whom are overweight always trying to lose weight) making me feel funny about losing weight. I was originally 132 pounds before my loss, BTW.

Anyone else identify?

Cazzi

I wish I could--but no one's complained that I'm too thin! Maybe one day soon. BTW I am almost 60 myself.

I have started to catch a little bit of this...and I expect to get more since I hope to lose a few more pounds. My response to those sorts of comments will hopefully be diplomatic, but will more likely involve the 'f' word for those who are too persistent/nosey... IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!!!

I get this alot! I live in a different town and have several different friends that I did not have in the years past. Therefore they have not seen the thinner ME. So now they say, you are so thin don't lose anymore weight. Some out of jealousy I know. But then others who just meet me say that I look great.

I know that I look good, but most of all I feel good!!

Welcome to the 60's!

It sounds like those who are criticizing you are just showing some jealousy. When I notice wrinkles in my mirror, I just take my glasses off and the wrinkles disappear.

Stick your tongue out at those who complain.

Okay. I'll be the goat. I agree with your friends. Of course I haven't seen what you look like, but I"m older and shorter than you are and I am concerned about how gaunt my face is looking. I look lots older in photos than I did three years and 30 some pounds ago.

My health (as measured by blood pressure and cholesterol stuff) is better, but I look a lot older than I'd like to.

And I think your initial weight was about right for your height and age.

You can't turn back time. Face it.

Kay

My sentiments exactly. I guess that's the only good thing about having to wear glasses!

Hey, you now have an excuse to eat carbs... IN FRONT OF THEM!!!!

sorry... i didn't mean to be mean... lol. It's all about how you feel.

It IS nice having a carb cushion, so to speak Thanks to everyone for your feedback. Love this forum.

Cazzi

Tsk! Aren't people irritating? LOL! Ten years ago, I lost a lot of weight. (It's Baaaackkkk).

People (even my mother, and I was 42) were saying I was too, this, I would just look gaunt as I got older, I was on my way to being anorexic......

Ya know what? I am going to get older. See? Look! I'm 52 now! But why do people think keeping some extra weight on is going to aid you in looking better? Actually, if I *have* to look oder, I'd rather be slim than look *fat* and older.

Hmm--let's see---slim and older----or----fat and older. Let me think......

Jealous, I say. All of 'em.

I am 52, and must admit that after losing 110 pounds I had a lower face/neck lift because I didn't like the chicken neck. Look at my photo gallery to see my before during and after photos.

Now since the surgery people have guessed my age in the 30's. I would say losing 20 years off my age is good results for the surgery.

When I mention that I want to lose another ten+ pounds I get those comments too, like where do you have to lose weight? Wondering what I am not happy with.

I was a size 26 and now fit into a few 8s and mostly 10s. Considering that the average American woman is a size 14 I think i am doing great, and according to the doctors charts I still need to take off that other ten pounds.

By doctors charts a woman of five foot three should weigh 115 pounds on average, unless your bone structure is very small. There is a range with 115 being the average. You may indeed be a little underweight. At 132 you were 17 pounds overweight, and now you are 10 pounds underweight. If you are small framed, then 110 might be just right.

I agree that a lot of this is jealousy. I have not had anything but praise from my friends. The few who are surprised when i say I would like to lose a few more pounds are friends who are bigger than I and are probably projecting,
since I am smaller than they are, I am fine the way I am. I don't let it bother me.

I am in the best shape of my life right now and very happy.
Karen

I think they are just jealous Cazzi. Many people reach a certain age and figure..."Why change now? What would be the point?" But you've taken responsibility to get in shape, so if you're happy and healthy, what are a few wrinkles? Everyone gets them eventually.

My nana is 64 (I am 24) and she's been overweight since I was born. She is the kindest woman, I love her to pieces. And I think she is just beautiful. Of course I don't care what she looks like, but I know my mom and her mother make comments on her weight behind her back, saying she should lose some weight. The funny thing is, my mom told me when my Nana was in her 30's, she was always super slim, tall and skinny like a model, but ALWAYS dieting. She never got to eat what she wanted, and was always trying to look good for everyone else. When she became a grandmother, she stopped worrying about it. And I think she's beautiful and fantastic with or without a few extra pounds.

My point is that someone will always have an opinion...whether they think you're too heavy or too thin...or you have too many wrinkles or whatever. How exhausting to try and please everyone! It's how you feel and how you treat others that really counts.

You should compare your BMI's together - that may shut them up. By one chart you're 19.5 - approx. 3 pounds away from the low end of "ideal". It depends on bone structure and probably what chart you're looking at.

I can't believe it but this 4th at a picnic my friends that I see once a month told me that I really only needed to lose 10 more lbs.

HA! They of course don't know how much I weigh or that I plan to lose 43 more lbs.

I think it is politeness in some instances, concern or jealousy in others. WHatever it is I am just happy that someone has noticed. I will deal with it as it comes.

When I lost a lot of weight previously, people certainly would comment. However, mostly they asked, "Are you ill? Are you OK?".
It was clear this was from concern. It's been my experience that often the people you see who look thinner have a disease or a significant illness.
Anyway, that's been my experience. As others have said, ignore them or you might even say, "Gee, that comment hurts my feelings." Wonder what might happen then.
Keep on going!