Tue, Feb-08-11, 02:16
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Senior Member
Posts: 2,834
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Plan: modified Atkins
Stats: 252.4/171.2/166
BF:40.74/27.63/25
Progress: 94%
Location: Norcross, GA
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildeone
Am I the only one who thinks it's pathetic that none of these men would notice you if you were fat - I can do without shallow men hitting on me.
I'm the same person just I come in various packaging
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I get what you're saying, but you know... Random guys that you pass in public or whatever... Really all they have to go off of is your physical appearance. I mean, generally speaking I guess it's agree people look physically better when they aren't overweight. So people pay more attention as you get smaller. I don't think that rule should apply to guys who actually know you as a person. If a guy I'd known for years was never attracted to me, then suddenly became interested if I got down to 125lb, I would think that was pretty freaking shallow. One such example (I want to hit my husband): My husband hardly said anything positive about my weight loss or even so much as said I was pretty for quite a long time. Some time around 185 (which happened in the last few weeks), he's all of a sudden showing more interest (barely, but going from nothing to a tiny bit is huge for him). I think that's extremely shallow. I even told him that if I get down to my final goal weight and all of a sudden he wants to have sex on a regular basis (because now it's once a month), I'm going to be REALLY angry because it will be clear what the reason is.
Despite my crappy husband's attitude, there are actually guy friends that I've had for a long time that expressed that they still found me attractive and still hit on me (innocently) when I was 250lb. It's those guys I really respect and appreciate.
So I get what you mean. But as far as random strangers go... They can only go off of what they see because they don't know you.
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