I had a dream the other night... I have no idea what it was about, the only part I remember is seeing myself standing in a mirror. I had my "old" body back...not my fat body...but even before that....I was thin, real thin, with curvy hips, and big boobs. It was like the perfect body....when I woke up I was almost depressed. Ive lost a good deal of weight, but Im far from goal, not to mention...I will NEVER have that body back again. I have loose skin, a c-section that ruined my stomach forever, stretch marks from hell...The more I loose, the worse I look naked.

I realize that I need to just get over it, and be happy Im loosing...but it's hard. I wasted so many years being fat. If I had done this years ago, maybe my skin wouldnt be so gross, maybe it would have bounced back. It's depressing.

i've had those dreams too... and yeah, i completely understand the thing about the more you lose, the worse your skin looks. i took twins to 38 weeks, both went naturally (6lbs 10oz and 6lbs 5oz, born 45 minutes apart), and now as i lose weight i'm noticing the difference between what parts of my stomach were just fat, and what parts were left from the pregnancy.

it took me a long time to realize i'll never have my pre-pregnancy body back without the help of cosmetic surgery. all we can do is embrace and love the bodies we have and make them as healthy as they can be. don't think of those years as wasted... every step you've taken in your life has gotten you to where you are now.

I've had a similar dream except I was just walking down the street like any regular day except I was slim and confident. Cool dream....until I woke up

I could have written your post myself (3 babies, last one 9 1/2 pounds) and too many years of being fat - I'll never look like I did pre-babies. What can you do about it? Nothing so try your best to think about how great you can look in clothes (can hide a lot) and don't dwell on coulda/woulda/shoulda. It's pointless, right?

Would you trade your kid(s) for a perfect body? Probably not, altho some days.....