Wed, Sep-29-04, 07:34
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Senior Member
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Plan: 30 g carbs/day
Stats: 220/180/150
BF:
Progress: 57%
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I've had these issues too, for a couple of reasons.
1. Resentment. We all want to be more accepted, and to us, that often means being thinner (that's the way we see it; it may or may not be true). But as we get closer to our goal weight, and we do start seeing (or at least we believe we start seeing--I'll explain below) more positive reactions from people, something inside us rebels. We remember all that it took to get here--the struggle and sacrifice, the years of crying, having to "explain" our "diet" over & over again & in many cases, defend it; after ALL that, well then, we're "acceptable" to others? THEY tell us when WE'RE ALLOWED to receive smiles or affection or the time of day? That's when you say, "To h*ll with you all. I think I'll go back to being fat...at least then I didn't have your phoniness to contend with."
2. The other is this huge sense of responsibility. When you're really overweight and your goal is miles away, you think that "some day" you will have this GREAT life b/c you'll be thinner. Everybody will love you...prejudices about your size will disappear...job opportunities will open up for you...health problems will disappear...it will all be golden. But...then when it's almost "there"...you start realizing that these wishes, are actually responsibilities. B/c once you're thin, if you DON'T get a boyfriend or if you DON'T get that new job or if your health DOESN'T drastically improve, then what do you have to blame it on?
FTR, I think a lot of how we *perceive* others are responding to us, is based on how we feel inside. We all know of people (maybe even ourselves) who lost 5 lbs. and suddenly were asked out 3 times or whatever. Trust me when I tell you that NOBODY knew you had lost just 5 measley pounds. Nobody but you. It wasn't how people saw you...it was how you saw yourself.
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