Sun, Feb-26-06, 14:31
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Senior Member
Posts: 2,441
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 194/131/135
BF:Too/Much/Fluff!
Progress: 107%
Location: Penna.
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Coco- it can be hard to find that healthy balanced place in the middle! I've had to really sift through what that looks like for myself over this past year of loosing weight. I think that your pendulum has swung wide in two opposite directions- too much control and not enough control. Personally, I think this is actually a kind of healthy progression, because it is giving you information about yourself and what you want your boundaries to be. You've learned from experience what you don't want things to look like, where eating is concerned, so now you are a whole lot wiser about what you DO want things to look like. Pat yourself on the back!!! Really, you have a lot to feel proud of because you are trying to take the best care of you that you know how to do, which means working to bring yourself back to the middle, when you discovered you'd gone too far out on the edges.
So, what to do now? If it was me, I'd start by putting some structure back into my life- like starting out with maybe a plan for my meals for the day or the week. But, I'd make sure I didn't do anything too restrictive or legalistic, and I would also make sure I put in foods that I found pleasurable- but at this point- pleasurable foods I felt like I wouldn't go out of control with. One of my nutritionist friends makes sure she eats a little chocolate every day- it's her way of keeping the fun in food but also feeling like she can be in control of the fun. If you find yourself getting too obsessive with the structure, then force yourself to mix things up a bit- turn that wrap to the other side of the plate! There truly is a healthy middle place for you, and you'll need to define how that personally looks for you, which will probably take some trial and error. You know your weight should probably not drop below where it is now, and it's ok to set a reasonable upper limit for your weight as well. Within that range, your weight will stabilize at the place it likes the best when you eat in a reasonable- but not legalistic- way.
The other thing I would suggest, is to do what you need to do to have opportunities to relax and get some distance from life's anxieties. That can be hard in college, with so many deadlines and tests, papers, etc. But, the more relaxed you are, the less you'll get pestered by weight related anxious thoughts. Having healthy fun- with LOTS of opportunities to laugh- is one of the very best things you can do for you!
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