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Thought Realignment
Found this in my papers, and thought I would share it.
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Subjective Distortions from the following three Filters:
* Past experience
* Present needs
* Our Values
17 Mindbenders
Here’s 17 ways you can distort your perceptions and bend your frame of mind:
1. Reading Minds – believing that you’re particularly perceptive about others and that you know what they’re really up to
2. Blaming – trying to hold other people, places and situations responsible for your current behavior
3. Ruling – trying to impose rigid, inflexible regimentation on yourself and others
4. Weighing – believing that you can impose legalistic balance and fairness on your relationships with others
5. Deferring – deferring too many present enjoyments to some distant time when everything is just right.
6. Selecting – seeing only one aspect of a person or situation and ignoring everything else.
7. Dooming – seeing only terrible, worst-case outcomes and then alarming yourself.
8. Affecting – relying only on what you feel at the moment to discern the truth about another person or situation.
9. Informing – insisting that you’re always right even in the face of contradictory evidence or inconclusive information.
10. Relying – believing that the only person you can ever count on is yourself.
11. Charming – believing that other people will never act in your interest unless you first charm and manipulated them.
12. Name Calling – inflicting people with global names, labels and stereotypes which may contain a morsel of truth but are based only on a single observation or incident.
13. Defaulting – feeling helpless because you believe other people and circumstances have control over what you can and cannot do.
14. Overgeneralizing – forcing big conclusions from little observations.
15. Personalizing – believing that everything that occurs is related significantly to you.
16. Controlling – assuming you have omnipotent power and control, and that you’re responsible for everything and everybody.
17. Polarizing – seeing everything that happens in either/or extremes.
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