Short summary, see my journal for more details...
My GF and I are trying to have a kid, the Dr. ~ the fertility clinic said she needed to loose serious weight before he could help her. (she started ~ ~ 395lbs, he says he's never succeeded w/ anyone over 300, but many of his patients that lost no longer needed his help) Due to her age, we need to get her size down as quickly as is safe.
She agreed to go on Atkins at the Dr's reccomendation if I would go on it too, and take over the bulk of the food shopping and prep work. Essentially I'm the household diet manager, and 'LC expert'.
I'm doing fine, and loosing well. She is loosing, but not as fast as we would like (~20lbs in 7 wks, but over 10 was the 1st 2 weeks of induction). Mostly we are eating the same foods, except that she does a fair bit of 'frankenfoods' snacking on LC chocolates, Splenda sweetened waters, etc. Otherwise we are eating pretty much per the book, averaging 20-25g / day, on the induction list, w/ some nuts, but no fruits. While we haven't been perfect, I would say that we have managed to stay 95+% 'cheat free' with the failures coming in the form of exceeding total carb allowances occasionally (w/ legal foods) rather than eating forbidden stuff.
I've posted about this in my Journal already, and have been getting some advice from BadgerGirl, I thought I'd post here as well (Hope this is the optimal place, if not moderators may feel free to move this)
We are now in our 8th week. I'm feeling fine but my GF is not. She reports two MAJOR problems, which I'd like to get advice on how to fix.
1. She says she is HUNGRY most of the time, to the point where she sometimes comes home from work early because she has eaten all the food she brought with her (part of her portion control strategy is to only bring the days allowance) and is still to hungry to concentrate.
In terms of how much she is eating, I have trouble seeing that as a problem. I haven't seen anything explicit in DANDR or elsewhere that says you should eat additional food if you are big (which she is, although less so than she was!) We both eat about the same amounts of food for lunch and dinner and often the same for breakfast. She probably eats more snacks, but my snacks tend to be 'real food', while at least some of hers are more of the LC frankenfood variety. I know that I don't feel hungry most of the time, and often have to remind myself to eat snack items when having a long stretch between meals, even though I'm not particularly wanting anything.
2. She says that she feels more irritable, that things which normally don't bother her are starting to get to her. Her shrink (she is on anti-depressants) is aware of this, but doesn't seem to think it rates messing with her meds any. According to her, the shrink hasn't explicitly said as much, but is making suggestions for dealing with it that are consistent with Seasonal Affective Disorder. The timing is such that either explanation (or both) would make sense, but if it's LC related, I'd like to fix it.
I've been reading a great deal on here (much more than I've been posting) and have noticed the consistent pattern that getting rid of the imitation foods seems to resolve issues for people, and seems to be the first suggestion offered for anyone that is having a problem with the LC WOL. I've been trying to get her to stop doing the artificial legal snacks almost since we started, but she insists that having the fake stuff helps keep her from cheating on the real thing.
BadgerGirl suggested that there may also be an emotional / psychological component to my GF's 'hungries' but she emphatically denies this, and insists that it is a physical hunger, not just habit.
However there may also be a reflection of our Pre-LC habbits. I've never been much of a desert eater by habbit (I'd eat it if offered, but wouldn't go out of my way for it) and also didn't do much in the way of snacking between meals. If we went out to eat, my default tended to be things that were heavy on the meat, and not much for frilly stuff (although I did tend to minimize vegetables) she went more for fancy higher carb dishes, was more likely to get desert, etc. She also tended to do more between meal snacking and nibbling.
My darling doesn't think that the frankenfoods are part of the problem, but is willing to try the experiment of getting rid of them, once we have agreed on a definition of just what are and are not frankenfoods to the fussiest degree possible. She makes the reasonable point that if we only get rid of some problem items then the experiment might not prove anything since the remainder might still be causing problems.
She insists on having a definite time span for the experiment, so that if it doesn't work she can go back to her current use of fake chocolates, etc. She would prefer to have the time be as short as possible, I want it to be long enough for any effects to show. I have proposed two weeks as a minimum, which I think will be long enough to show any trends. Success is defined as 1. A faster rate of loss, 2. Her not being hungry any more. While I would always welcome a faster loss rate, my primary concern at this point is that she stop being hungry. DANDR says a person doing LC isn't supposed to feel like she is starving, I want to figure out what we are doing wrong so that my beloved isn't feeling hungry all the time.
Since we are coming up on Thanksgiving, where we will probably be eating OK foods, but not our normal food selections or quantities, and because I feel a need to do a bit more research to come up with a definitive list of what we will and won't eat during the experiment, it seems our logical window will be to use the window between Thanksgiving and Yule.
Does this seem like a reasonable approach?
What particular reccomendations would you make for foods that we should eliminate, or be sure to add?
Any other suggestions as to how to handle this problem?
Sorry for the length, but I didn't want to leave out any essentials.
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