Sat, Apr-16-11, 20:46
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Senior Member
Posts: 177
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Plan: Kwasniewski
Stats: 120/132/115
BF:
Progress: -240%
Location: canada
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hi there...
being revolted at seeing your daughter eat like that is a normal reaction. being taught to eat properly won't give her a complex. learning manners is part of life. for example... learning not to pick your nose. everyone would agree picking your nose in front of people is not acceptable. this is no different. you don't need therapy, my god!
secondly... your husband sounds like he needs to calm down. no one needs to be yelling at you about anything.
last, perhaps you should start serving your child low carb foods. it sounds like she has everyone's normal reaction to carbs: addiction. carbohydrates are not good for anyone, and i do not understand the sentiment from some parents on this forum that children should be fed carbs. low carbing is not only a way to lose weight, it is a way to maintain optimal health, not damage your metabolism, and prevent becoming overweight and basically every other health problem there is.
the people who claim otherwise or say it's okay to feed kids carbs are not educated enough on the topic.
as your daughters mom, is it up to you to make good choices for her and help her become properly socialised. you have the Right and responsibility to do so. teaching her proper eating habits, ie. polite chewing, is just normal socialisation, and giving her foods that are the most healthful for her is just sane. as a parent is it your duty to do so. and that includes your husband's duty. the shame is for him for not teaching her properly and for yelling at you.
lastly, no one should have to endure irritating behavior. it is antisocial to do so. it's not mean to let people know their behavior is irritating or otherwise unacceptable, it is social gesture. it is kind.
perhaps you can let your husband know that her chewing really irritates you and is not polite, and you shouldn't have to be annoyed with her chewing, and/or at the very least that she has to learn to eat normally just like she would learn any other social behavior (ie not picking nose). to protect yourself from an explosive reaction, which would be undue i might add, you can say it with kindness and grace.
good luck to you.
Last edited by heirloom10 : Sun, Apr-17-11 at 01:31.
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