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Posts: 529
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Plan: Semi-LC/Alt. Day Fasting
Stats: 229/221/150
BF:Goal is 22%
Progress: 10%
Location: Tri-Cities area, WA
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Originally Posted by Lipid
On the weight charts I look at, its not unrealistic for a 19 year old girl thats only 5 foot tall to want to weigh about 105... she goes about it wrong, but its not a bad goal weight for her.
My daughter is 20 and weighs 95 and she is 5'2"... that weight is not too skinny on her because she has a very petite frame...at 5'2" my daughter would look a little chubby if she weighed 115...so my point is that everyone is different and some have such small frames that a normal weight for them is pretty low.
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Absolutely, Lipid! I think 105 is OK, I think 110 or 115, or even 120 with muscle tone is even better, because her own metabolism will help maintain FOR her. If there has been an extended period of starvation, the muscle tone she has left will need to be redeveloped, as it most likely has been compromised to a pretty good extent. (ie: a bodyfat percentage disproportionate to muscle) She wants to fit into her pants, and that's a worthy goal, regardless of what the scale says. I want her negative self-talk to end, because it will just stop her from meeting her goals. It has no use and ultimately will cost her, if it hasn't already.
I used the "fat cow" comment to remind her of other folk's feelings in order to shift focus away from her own self scrutiny, to try to put things into perspective, AND to develop a "nurture" mindset. Once the nurturing/empathic aspect of her personality is brought forth, it's likely to spill over into what she's capable of doing for herself that's positive, not negative. That's the reason I believe a diet is not ultimately what she needs, she needs a positive mindset and the tools to get healthy. The weight will distribute the way it needs to once she's been eating and finds the energy to exercise, because I also believe she's got a compromised energy level by now. Now, I could be wrong in all my assessments, but I've got a lot of life experience, generally know human nature, and if I can help, even remotely, I will put my 2c in each and every time.
I actually was not insulted. I just wanted her aware of the difference between her reality and mine/ours, and to mentally compare the two, for the reasons outlined above.
Vicky
Last edited by VickySail : Sat, Oct-02-04 at 08:12.
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