Wed, Jan-03-07, 21:36
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I've decided
Posts: 16,864
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Plan: LC
Stats: 235/137.6/130
BF:haven't a clue
Progress: 93%
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I was reading that other thread, and posted something in it way earlier...but I'm just now having another one of those 'aha' things about my own particular situation.
You see, I'm phenomenally good at beating myself up mercilessly for my slip ups, and because of that - the one slip up turns into scenarios like, "Well, why bother even trying, you obviously suck at this weight loss thing anyway...you're never going to get there".
And the worse I feel about myself, the more likely it is that I'll slip up again.
So, in this respect, I do think forgiveness and/or 'explanations and reasons' are a healthy response to dealing with the times when I have messed up. I've noticed a trend - when I'm kind to myself, and am able to put the messed up meal or whatever behind me, I last a lot longer before screwing up again. On the other hand, if I tear myself apart for the so-called 'failure' - I find it very difficult to get back on track. I can sometimes get into a "Why bother, you keep screwing up anyway" kind of mentality.
I recognize though - that not everyone has this same 'blame game' going on in their heads like I do.
Also realizing too - after reading that other thread, that this is a big learning curve for me, and it's not just the food part - but rather, how to live through the really bad times without reaching for the easiest thing at the time. I'm not so good at it, but I'm slowly, but surely, getting there. A key piece in my 'getting there' is to stop beating myself up when things don't always go according to plan.
Being able to forgive myself, and put it behind me, helps me stay 'on track' more often and for longer periods of time.
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