Leemack, you wrote:
'If a diet fails, either lack of weight loss, inability to stick to the diet, or regain of weight, people blame themselves not the diet company.'
Not so. They blame the diet, they blame the diet company. That's what they vocalize (or write) about. However, I agree 1000 percent with you that they do blame themselves. They feel like they couldn't handle something that apparently slimmer people handle well. They feel like something they did was wrong and it made them fat today and they can't do the right thing to correct that, however the right thing is presented.
Do they talk about that? No. Actually, I think it's too painful for them to talk about, and thinking about it is painful enough to begin with.
Any diet you can stick with is going to work, unless it's totally ridiculous and asks you to do something that your doctor could TELL you without hesitation is bad for your health. Taking amphetamines works, for example. Is that a real diet? Would your doctor approve? Once upon a time, they even prescribed pills that were basically amphetamines - man, those were simpler times.
If someone diets and it doesn't work for them, do they say, 'The XYZ failed me'? Actually, from reading this forum, it tends to go like the following: The XYZ diet? Yeah, I tried that, I remember that! I couldn't do it. I hated it. Quit after a month, because it just didn't work for me.' That's fine.
Then, there's the other variation: 'The ABC diet? Yeah, I tried that. I remember that. I did every single thing they said and I was perfect on that diet and I lost maybe a pound. Then nothing. I told them I was doing everything right. After all is said and done, I realized they were really making me gain weight instead of lose weight because I was hungry, no matter what I did. I didn't like the diet and I GAINED weight. They were wrong, they lied about the diet. Even if other dieters were losing weight, it didn't matter. I know it doesn't work.'
But at that point, the person no longer says, 'It doesn't work for ME.' Which then make the 'it doesn't work!' statement close in its message to 'I expected it to work and it doesn't!'
From there, it's 'The diet made my friend have a heart attack' or 'The diet made me gain weight that I could NEVER take off because it screwed up my metabolism so badly that I can't lose weight the way other people do.'
The diet did that!
Here's something to chew on: the first really dramatic case of weight loss I ever encountered was a co-worker who lost over close to 100 pounds on WW. She was short, too, so you finally saw what a petite person she really was. The fact that she was in her 40s and the weight didn't drop off of her - she dieted and lost her weight at a decent pace - tells me that dieting didn't give her a heart attack. She was in good health and her doctor could tell you whether WW 'GAVE her a heart attack' but only her doctor could tell you that.
And if that is the result of a diet that stresses a moderate pace ('the weight stays off longer if you lose it at a moderate pace,' WW will tell you), then that diet is going to be scrutinized in a courtroom because you have a lawsuit. I would never tell that story and intimate that WW was a dangerous diet. I know that it is not.
That 'eat less, move more' message is effective. And attractive. And if 98% of diets fail, that includes all diets. But you just get back on that horse, don't you? I got back on the Atkins horse. Several times. I got back on the WW horse several times. Now I'm on a lower-carb, WW, Zone-ish in its proportions type horse. The money issue isn't relevant - which I realized when I saw how futile it was to get into a discussion of the cars people drive. For example.
If the person you mention (not representative by any means) still didn't get sufficient help at WW, she was free to go to other meetings and confer with leaders at other meetings. WW is flexible that way. She could get support online. She could DO WW online if she lived in an area where there were no WW meetings, if she wanted to utilize their support online. But then, there are free WW support groups on other dieting forums. She did what she wanted to do, diet-wise, of her own free will and no one forced her to go. If she was convinced and hopeful the plan would work, I'm sorry it didn't. I'm sorry she didn't manage to lose weight when she believed what she was doing was right.
That is not unlike the experiences of many people who low-carb. I have gained weight when low-carbing. WW doesn't require you to pass a test to show that you are doing it all right. It is all up to you, it is all your responsibility - and they will continue to take your money as long as you, by your very presence, show that you get some value from the meetings. This is just fine. That's the way it works. If you don't go to meetings and you don't pay, you cease to be a member. Then, there's always all that pesky free stuff on the internet so that you can diet as a WW, use the points plan, or any variation of WW, not pay anything, and where are you? Where you have always been: losing weight, through your own efforts and focus, for yourself and no one else.
With no one collecting a cent from you.
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