So, I'm sure a lot of us have horror stories about exes that decimated our self esteem or "helped" us on the way to being fat. After just stumbling upon THAT ex on FB and being (nearly irresistibly) tempted to send him a message just to tell him off, I thought: "What if I just wrote this letter elsewhere to get it off my chest?"
Who else wants to get something off their chest to an ex? I have to say, it felt pretty damn good!
Dear Ex,
First and foremost, you and I both know what you did, and you just escaped the statute of limitation by the skin of your teeth, so be grateful you aren't in jail for identity theft. I have no interest in being a part of your current life, and certainly no interest in inviting you into my life. But this is a rare opportunity for closure, and I'm taking it.
I forgive you. I forgive you for not being willing to rise above your childhood and circumstances to become a good person and honorable man. I forgive myself for being a naive teenager blinded by your charm. I also forgive myself for allowing myself to be manipulated by you into thinking I couldn't do any better. I THANK you for realizing I was too good for you, and, even though you went about it in a cowardly fashion, for leaving. That was the only gift you ever gave me, and it was a big one.
Because of that gift, I finished college, traveled the world, met my amazing husband, made an incredible life with him, achieved success. And figured out what actual love looks like, which wasn't the cheap imitation you were peddling.
I'm not expecting an apology from you. Maybe you've become a better man in the past 11 years, and maybe you haven't. I hope for your sake it's the former. Either way, thank God it doesn't affect me any longer.
Good bye.
If anyone feels comfortable, please follow suit. It was such a relief getting this out of my system.