Last night, my family and I went out to dinner. While waiting in the car for hubby to pay afterwards, my kids started teasing each other. My daughter was putting her finger in her mouth, all the way to the back of her throat, and making "throw up" noises in response to some comment her brother made. I asked her not to do it, and explained that putting her fingers that far in to her mouth really could make her throw up, which aside from being gross was not good for her. Her response:
"Well, it makes you lose weight."
My daughter is 10 years old.
I was totally horrified by this.. to my knowledge, and as far as what is within my control, my daughter has never been exposed to any sort of information regarding dieting or eating disorders. I have always been very careful during my weight loss to approach my chage of diet as a way to get healthy, and not as a way to lose weight. I have never complained of being fat in front of her, I have never criticized or commented on her weight, and I don't ridicule/comment on overweight people in front of her. This has got to be coming from friends at school, as there is really nowhere else she would have gotten this information from!
I asked her where she had heard this, and she said "I don't know." I didn't push that issue, but did explain to her that making oneself throw up is NOT a way to lose weight, that it is dangerous, will make people sick, will damage teeth, and could possibly lead to death. I don't have any concerns that she is actually DOING this, because the comment was definitely made in a joking manner - but it makes me very concerned because I really hadn't been aware that this sort of stuff was floating around in her head (it certainly wasn't floating around in my head when I was 10!!). I am not sure what, if anything, else to do to address this issue. I would really appreciate any input/feedback from other parents out there. I always thought I would do great at understanding/responding to childhood issues because I was pretty young myself when my kids were born and so thought I could "relate", but this just floors me. It is so totally opposite from where my head was at at this age