My goodness girl, take this from someone who's been around the block a few times. You are caring a heavy load. Quiting smoking, starting a diet, starting a new job, mom is very ill, and on top of it, a husband who is negitave and somewhat of a know it all on what is best for you. Only you know what is best for you, and when you get ready and feel up to it, then you go ahead and exercise at your pace. I really liked Khrussa reply. Look how great he is doing, and the others on this forum. I have been married 56 years, and my hubby is from the old school. I cook a large meal for him every day. I bake cakes, pies and anything else he enjoys. What I had to do is get the strength not to eat these things that are so tempting. I have issues with gluten, flour, sugar, yeast. I have fallen off the wagon many times in the past. I finally got it through my head to take care of myself, and put my needs top prority. Oh, I'll still cook for him and continue to make him happy, but I'll eat seperate if needed, because I want to make me happy too, and being close to 300 pounds on a small frame, does not make one happy. Sometimes, spouses sabotage their mates efforts because they become insincure about changes in their loved ones. They want them to suceed, but on the other hand, they want to keep them just as they are for fear their going to look good and things could change in their relationship. I will say, my hubby always tells me how beautiful I am, and has never made my weight an issue. So young lady, look into the mirror and go make yourself beautiful, relax and enjoy yourself. Put some happy music on and put a deaf ear to anyone who is negative. There was a song ( I think it was in the 80ties) " I am woman, hear me roar". Find it, play it, and you go roar.
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