It was the first day of swimming at my daughter's daycare....I bought here what amounted to a three-piece swimsuit....bottoms, top and a swimming pullover/tankini top. I have posted about her before...she has developed early and has put on a little weight. But we did a mall search and the swimsuit fit her perfectly and was very flattering....but on their second swim today in the afternoon, she slipped off the tankini top leaving the more bikini style top on. (she is eight). Anyway, the daycare teacher asked her to put back on her cover up/tankini. At her age, she did not really understand why she was asked to do that as all but two other girls were wearing two-piece swimsuits. While I didn't think it was as flattering without the top, it did fit her perfectly and was not inappropriate.

Am I over reacting to feel funny about this?

Thanks.

Ask the teacher why and if she doesn't have a good answer I would say you are not over reacting. Many young girls start developing early and they should not be penalized for it.

JMHO

Shame on that teacher! Little girls get SO self concious about body image soon enough without help from people like HER!
I'd talk to her if I were you..

Isn't it amazing that both well-developed and flat-chest child both felt equally ostracized in this society? I must say that I feel the US is probably the one of the less (mentally) healthy place to raise a girl.

Just looking for some more input.
Thanks!

In my opinion if other girls were wearing bakini's and the teacher told your daughter to cover up and not the other girls, I would be absolutly livid!! As it was said in hear before, girls are so inpressionable at that age, and to help them start a complex about any part of their body,especilly for an adult, not to mention one I'm sure you daughter respects, is completly inapproperate of the teacher to do this. If it had been said to all the girls, I'd not find it as wrong as pin-pointing one child. I would say something to the teacher, as to what would depends on how strongly you feel about it.

Definitely pull aside the teacher and speak with her. It could be an honest mistake, such as the teacher saw her in the tankini top and perhaps thought it was an integral part of the suit or that you purposely put that top on her. A myriad of things. Anyway, ask for clarification and if you even feel that the teacher was unjust in her actions, then go medieval on her!!

NO kidding. WHen I was young I was a little plump and started to develop early and was completely neurotic about it due to being teased mercilessly at school. Though athletic, I avoided pools/water like the plague. This remains with me today!! DH could never understand why I hated to go to the beach, even when my figure was decent. I couldn't understand how HE couldn't understand - after all he was male, and one of the ones who was probably judging. Well... I went to the beach with him in Germany (he's german) and the funny thing was that the skinny sporty girls were the ones in "functional" one pieces. Everyone else was in bikinis - old, young, fat, saggy, wrinkly....and they didn't care. It was just their body! So foreign to me

Hi Anita, I would probably feel the same way and be livid and not know what to do about it because I'm not one for confrontation....but I do understand how you are feeling, as you already know I have the same issues with my 9 year old daughter.

I also have to add that your husband is right...I hate to admit when a man is right It's true, self confidence in a women is sexy and I'm starting to get my self confidence back eventho I'm nowhere near my goal....and in order for your daughter to grow up like that she has to see that her mommy is self confident. Kids learn by what they see and not what we tell/teach them....WE as mothers have to show our daughters how to be proud of themselves NO MATTER WHAT....and to walk with their chin up (or double chin...lol)

And like someone else posted here, maybe you misread her, maybe she had a good reason to ask her to put it back on....we tend to always jump to the wrong conclusion....and sometimes we are wayyyy off.

Just my 2 cents.