I didn't mean to take so long to come back to this thread. I have a lot of stuff to answer/respond to. I think he has seen fathead, but we could watch it again. I don't remember, does it talk a lot about diabetes? He is interested in improving his diet, he just doesn't want to totally overhaul it. He doesn't believe in purism about anything at all, in any context. He sees that our son Mark needs to eat a purist gf diet but Steve (DH) doesn't break out on his forehead for the whole world to see, or get debilitating stomach aches when he eats sugar.

He'll like all of that stuff. He's all about variety. The entire issue is for him not to still resort to the old stuff while he's enjoying the new ones too.

Thanks. This is now the required words outside the quote, to make the post go.

Well, I will check that out, but he was getting stones way before he was diabetic. That's a good point about the transplant. His late dad only had one functioning kidney and he has an aunt (dad's sis) with one very weak kidney. I am mentally cataloging the points that he needs to consider in order to get this behind him if it can be done.

1. The hardest recommendations will be coming from a medical specialist who is not in the pockets of the pharmaceutical companies. He is very cynical about corporate greed, so it should resonate.

2. His mom has been good and disciplined along the lines of the ADA recommendations for that more moderate diet and yet, she has had to move to insulin and she has some medical issues that may be related to her diabetes. His aforementioned readiness to believe that they're all in it together should kick in on this, too.

3. Along with the transplant thing, there are:

• Sexual dysfunction (Notice how I put that first?)
• More stones (if the sugar and uric acid thing is valid)
• Decreased mental acuity (He already is getting this)
• Nerve damage (also something he may be getting already)

Yes, he loves to lift weights. He also loves to run but he can't do as much of that as he did when he was young. He did cross country in high school and used to run for miles, just to burn off steam. He does want to be healthy, he just has a tendency to "want it all" in every aspect of life. He wants to save money and shop his brains out at the same time, for example.

I understand your point about not arguing. Believe me, he will teach a person not to argue with him. Like I said, he fights dirty. But I, on the other hand, am a strategist and will think long and hard about effective ways to communicate what he needs to do for himself. A lot of times, he will snap back at me, and I will back off, obviously just to avoid a fight. Then, he ruminates on it, feels guilty and will come back to make peace and also do the adult thing. This whole problem is all about helping him see what the real solution to his problem is and allow him to get on board for himself. I don't feel like I am up against some awful deadline because he is improving. That's just not going to be enough in the long run, but I can see how his body will eventually show him what he needs to do. That and the glucose meter, that is.

Thanks for that link. It may offer some shorter explanations for particular issues he will be dealing with. I'll definitely watch for the interview.

How is your husband doing now?