I have to agree with Kris and Lisa. I think it has to do with age, wisdom and maturity. As you go thru life I would hope that you reach an age of wisdom where you realize that it really isn't about the "fat". If a man (or whoever) is unable to accept you at that moment as you are--what makes you think that he will be more accepting if you are thin (?) and the more important question--why would you want someone so superficial as to only accept you when you are "thin". Not the kind of person I want to be in a relationship with when the tough gets going.

I love being in my forties--I don't even give that kind of stuff a second thought.

Lose the weight for you and for the right reasons, not for a "guy" (or gal).

Lisa