I also think that womens thoughts on whats slender and normal is altered when they are heavy.

4 yrs ago, I lost a lot of weight and got to 160lbs, I'm 5'10". I still had a lot of fat on me, so I had planned on going to 150 and seeing if I liked that better. My family would not let it go, my mother called me anorexic, everywhere I turned they were trying to feed me. Most of my family is heavy and I think that alters their thoughts on weights.

Now that I'm back to 170lbs and working on my goal of 150lbs, I don't see the slim women as anorexic any more. I don't frown when I see a slender woman or wish she would eat more. My perception has changed with my weght also.

I would go with what feels good to you. If you like what you see in the mirror, then thats what matters. It hurts when its from family, but be upfront, I'm refered to as bitchy, but when someone starts in I tell then what I think and am quick about it. It tends to stop the harrasment and a normal convo can be carried on.