I have many of the same reasons, but the latest one hit me hard. My 5 year ols was invited to a pool party and the mother wanted all of the moms to be in the pool with their own child. None of the moms of my son's friends are over 140lbs. and they were all complaining about having to put on a bathng suit. There was no way I was getting into a suit. I had to lie about why I could not go in and I cried as I watched all the moms enjoying this time with their child. I have to do this for him as well as for health.