I have to admit, part of why I want to lose weight is for my husband. BUT, it's not really BECAUSE of him, it's really my perception of how he sees me. He tells me all the time that I'm beautiful and sexy, but I'M the one who winces because I can't see myself that way. I want to believe that he thinks I'm sexy, and proud to "show off" to his friends and coworkers even though I know I'm not a show pony! It's a bit ridiculous, but once you get into the frame of mind that you're "too fat" or "too chubby" for someone to like you, it starts a vast array of distorted thinking and negative self image. If I were you, I would try to keep your thoughts more positive about your body and enjoy the guys who do find you attractive (and look for the nice ones! lol)