Thanks guys, I think I will wait several day to talk to her. Now I am still to hurt and angry and I am afraid I will say something that I will regret later.
About people telling you that you are killing yourself with all that fat. One of another friend husband told me the same thing while eating boxed mac and cheese. He weights 300+ lbs, is sedentary and proclaims to everyone who listens that a HF diet is toxic. I gave him tons of references but he keeps arguing that all that is BS. I have decided to let him die stupid.