Guilty of self-sabotage, definitely.
Once in "binge mode" you completely loose control. It's like the only thing you can think of is food food food. Doesn't matter if friends call, you cancel plans and free yourself so you can eat. Generally, this will last 2-3 hours but the end result is overwhelming. Depression, guilt, sadness and self-abusive talk starts. This usually happens when you have lost control over something. Weatherproofing is a cause of this, trying to fix every little problem, controling every situation.
I have seen it with close friends, family members and I have experienced it myself. Now that I recognize it, it doesn't happen anymore.

Annette, you are worthy of the attention. If your marriage isn't making you happy, find what will make you happy. What I"m saying is, relive the moments of happiness with your husband. You both fell in love for a reason, find out what that reason is and build on that. Chances are, he might be feeling the same as you right now.

I hope things work themselves out.