Thank's Ron but you point out something key here, and it applies to both chemical and food (substance) abuse - for me at least.

There is no fight. When I stopped trying to control the things I couldn't, I found peace. Fighting and struggling is the exact recipe for disaster. Letting go and acceptance is the answer for me. Letting go of what I think and know about myself and others. Acceptance of what is happening right now, with the people immediately in my presence, and if I'm alone, me - just how I am right now, pissed off or happy or neither.

This is how it is. You will do well.