No retiree will describe retirement as relaxing. That is, the ones who are doing it right.

But seriously...try to slow down. A little. If you're busy, please make sure you're doing mostly the things you really want to. Some things are, of course, non-negotiable. Caregiving (hopefully manageable) may be one.

In my experience, everyone thinks retirees have nothing to do, and are happy to help fill in the spaces in their lonely, unfulfilled lives.

Best wishes!