Hi Kathy.

First of all, BIG GIGANTIC HUGS. ((((you))))

Second of all, I think it's very kind of you toward your husband to consider taking that step to bless your husband that way for your anniversary. Not many wives would want to take on that pressure.

Having said that, honey, there is probably no way that you will be able to find victory meeting those goals because they are not yours, they are his. You can absolutely make those your goals, but it has to be for you, you have to feel that it's worth it. If we allow our spouse to dictate what we are doing with our bodies, the whole process will feel like a drudgery and forced, and can really foster resentment toward our spouse and the process---leaving us eating tortilla chips and eating ice cream.

There is so much more to losing weight and taking care of ourselves, and part of it is the emotional issues attached to eating/not caring for ourselves. It's something we have to dig into and feel, and when we are not in it for the long haul because we are doing it for someone else, chances are, we'll gain it all back, unfortunately.

Please stick around, figure out if you are willing to be in it FOR YOU. If so, then dig in, let us walk with you, and get to work!

More big hugs and welcome!