I have to agree with those who advocate working with your daughter to help her. When I was a young teen, and was about 30 lbs. overweight, I had an experience that shaped my attitude forever about losing weight. My father, thinking he was encouraging me, told me that he would give me $10 for every pound I lost. From that moment forward, I looked at losing weight as a means to an end. I should want to eat right because it makes me feel good, not because I want to achieve a goal.

The things our parents do when we are kids shape our attitudes for the rest of our lives. Consider how you address this problem carefully.