I call my kids a lot, and they both have their own email addresses, so I have been trading emails with them. I have talked to the soon-to-be-ex a couple times, plus sent some email, mostly about business details of the divorce. I shouldn't believe all the bad things he has said about me. I guess it relieves his guilt to dump on me. I haven't gained any weight through this. I bought a pair of dress pants for job interviews, whenever they happen, and they are....drum roll please....size 8. So I guess I'm not fat anymore.