Mon, Jul-04-11, 06:30
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NEVER GIVING UP!
Posts: 5,030
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Plan: no sugar/grains LCHF IF
Stats: 478/354/200
BF:excessive!!
Progress: 45%
Location: UK
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Quote:
Originally Posted by jschwab
I am in a parenting group and one of the ladies posted an article about "chubby chasers" and "fat fetishists" and how a whole subculture has grown up with its own norms and message boards and infighting, etc. I think she was surprised by it and maybe falling into the idea that all men who are with heavier women are of that bent. I pointed out that that is a sexual fetish and comes with its own power dynamics, exploitation (maybe) and drama. More often it is that men and women meet, like each other, fall in love, have preferences in the looks department, as all people do, whether large or small. Most of the men I have dated have been with very thin women and also dated much heavier women without giving it much thought (once they get past high school peer pressure).
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Absolutely. I think when you're talking about things like feeders and fetishes, then that's different.
My partner's only preference is for non-skinny, he hates bones and ribs sticking out on a woman and prefers soft curves of pear shaped women - which is probably more true to natural biological preference.
Unfortunately the media and current culture is changing what men feel able to find attractive, If you're constantly told that super skinny is attractive, eventually you believe it - plenty of women also fall for this, we see it on the forum all the time, women with a healthy BMI, sometimes as low 18-20, saying they're too fat, their body isn't the right shape, their stomach isn't flat (like they believe it should be) - their bodies still don't look like the women in film, tv, fashion etc, and because that's what they believe the 'ideal' is. They're unwilling to accept that women have different body shapes, and that those they're striving to be like, have been 'selected' for their specific body shape, which is considered acceptable for the industry.
There are a lot a boys, girls, men and women with really unrealistic expectations of what the female body shape should be.
Lee
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