I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. We have just passed our 1st anniversary of Lizzie's death (she was 14). And she lived with my mom and me until i left home when she was 10 and she had liver failure. I couldn't even get the blasted day off work to go with my mom and sister to the vets.
I know how you are feeling. I do have another dog now she's three and she is our "baby" i don't care what anyone says.
I'm sooooo grateful for this thread it's done me the world of good.
I've tried to think about how i'm going to solve my "problem".
I've thought about this many times , usually in the morning and said "never again!" and not only if i'd been absolutely drunk, just when i wake up feeling rough and then realise i had 3/4's of a bottle of wine the night before.
So i decide i'm never drinking again EVER.
Then 3 or 4 days of being really proud of myself i say ok then i'll change the goals to Just a glass at weekends! That one is the best i've done yet (1 week!).
But then i go out for a meal with friends and i think well it's a special occasion, so i have one or two glasses and have no pudding so food wise i don't feel guilty and on the way home i get a bottle from the off licence!!! (thinking : it's ok coz i didn't have a pudding so i've restricted myself there!!!!
What a FOOL!
Soon it's ok to open a bottle with our evening meal and finish it off.Tom also asks me not to drink too much because he knows i open a bottle and pretty much will try and finish it. It doesn't help that it seems the "norm" on TV or at work or friends house's to have a glass of wine or a beer whilst watching tv or sitting in the garden.....but it's having just one
that is my real problem
Saying all this - i haven't had a drink for 2 days and i'm trying really hard with my Body for Life program / low carbing so why shouldn't my initial goal be 12 weeks (or 9 weeks as i'm on weeks three already)! ! Till the end of my first challenge.
NO CHANCE!
That's what i think, but i'm trying to think of something that will give me a light at the end of the tunnel (if u know what i mean!)
But something which isn't TOO easy....if it's just drink every other day then i'll have twice as much every other day so i'll not benefit from that but if it's something i have to make a conscious effort at , then maybe i can really stick it out.
I don't know what i'll do yet, but for now i'm just avoiding it and thinking of my carbs and exercise more.
Right that's my nonsense for today all the best to everyone.
Speak to you all soon.
Phoebe x x