Thank you for the kind words, Aeryn
Originally Posted by Aeryn
This seems to me to be an almost impossible judgment to make with any accuracy unless you actually have seen the person and know what size their frame is. Don't you think? I'm constantly amazed, actually, when I run across members here who are my height and are trying to get down to 130 (I would be skin and bones!) or who are my height and whose goal weight is about where I started (I felt so fat at that weight!). The moral of the story being -- we all carry weight differently. So, generally when I am surprised by someone's height in conjunction with their current weight and their ultimate goal weight, I simply conclude that they must be built differently. It would be really discouraging and frustrating to me, for instance, if someone whose goal weight was 160 started dismissing my pleas for help because she thought I was just fine for my height!
I think you probably mean that we should be on the alert for people who might have become addicted to the diet -- but I just thought I'd throw this caution out there.
Yes, I agree with you wholeheartedly. We certainly aren't in a position to judge whether someone can/should lose weight just from their stats.
I was trying to keep my post as brief as possible, so I used the phrase "ring alarm bells" to try to convey the idea that we need to be aware of this but not jump to conclusions without more information. Perhaps I should have explained it in more detail, just as you have done in your post. Thank you for that!
The moral of the story being -- we all carry weight differently.
As a person with a fairly high goal weight, I am very aware of the need not to judge others based on their stats, in fact, even though I have quietly worried about the occasional poster, I have never posted a reply raising the issue primarily because I am so very far away from their situation. But I am relieved when someone wiser, smaller and better with words does raise it.
Actually, now that I think about it more, it's not the stats themselves that concern me. It's a combination of stats and what the person says about the approach to eating. Sometimes one gets the impression that this is not just about achieving and maintaining a healthy weight any more.
Anyway, I've rambled on a bit too much now and this topic is probably deserving of its own thread. It's a very sensitive point and one that must be approached with great care and understanding of different people, different bodies and different minds.