Originally Posted by highsteaks
Alright everyone, calm your livers.
To Kevin, LadyArya, LiveWell, Lisa, and jeanmarie,
Please, if you could possibly try to refrain from using this thread as a commentary on my personal life, I'd appreciate it. You don't know me, my relationship, my boyfriend, or really anything about my life. Certainly not enough to be making sweeping and insulting comments! Fortunately I'm able to smile at how ridiculous it is you feel able to pass such judgements after reading a couple of posts...
I mean, really people! Obviously, in starting a thread about this, I had to cherry pick some examples of support and non support. Since this is neither the time nor the place for my life story (I believe those are known as journals), I just randomly jotted a few things here.
And for your information, jeanmarie, I have been financially supporting both my boyfriend and I completely for the last seven months. He's writing an amazing book, and I'm happy to do so. I was referring to occasions when he has gone out and bought me steaks for treats, or when he was willing to have our food budget be higher and sacrifice other things...
As for the control issue, OF COURSE it's about control! The whole point of changing the way you eat is to gain control over food, not have food controlling you. And I'd like to continue to work toward my own control, without needing a nag on my shoulder. To me, that's a crutch, and an unhealthy one.
Lastly, I really don't feel like defending my own life to people who are so rude and ignorant. I brought up a couple of points to see if I could get some discussion going on the ways people have found their significant others to be supportive.
To everyone who answered the thread in this vein, thank you!! (And thanks, jillibean for the defence!)
I really appreciate your responses. Isn't it fun boasting about the good stuff? And talking about the hurtful things, at least you know you're not alone!
I apologize that, in between these positive responses, this thread has become a negative place. I can only hope those people so ready to pass down verdicts on other people's lives will either find some place else to go, or actually enter into a constructive discussion about the topic at hand.
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