Fri, Jan-30-04, 22:41
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Senior Member
Posts: 100
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Plan: mix of Atkins/Carb Addict
Stats: 188/185/135
BF:
Progress: 6%
Location: Sault Ste. Marie, ON
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Hello! Boy, was I happy to see this thread! I met my husband in May of 2001, got married in july of 2002, got pregnant in April of 2003, and then he left me in September of 2003.....after a little over a year of marriage and me 6 months pregnant (a "planned" oregnancy by the way)
He never really gave me any reaosns other than he "wasn't happy", "marriage wasn't what he thought it would be", and he "wasn't IN love with me". He left the day after he broke the news to me. I was in total shock. I called my mom after he left and she dorve 4 hours to come stay with me. I don't know how I would have gotten through those months without the support of my family. I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on dec.13th, and have occasional phone contact with my "ex". He has the audacity to ask for joint custody, and has no clue what an infant requires (especially a breast-fed one). So, here i am a brand new mom, 35 years old, staying with my parents because I can't afford to keep my house while on materity leave, paying off bills he racked up during the past year, and battling mild depression. The nurse/counsellor told me that the combination of my situation and the birth caused a type of post-traumatic-stress along with the post-partum moodiness. I get through every day, but every now and then I am reminded how he torpedoed my life's plans and then skated away. Of ocurse, the lawyer will be delaing with that part...I am not required to allow any access to the baby unless there's a custody agreement or he has signed over his rights to me. And his personality scaresme because he would likely run with her and in this province if there's no custody order then the parent who has physical possession of the child has legal custody. If he ran off with her i couldn't call the police; I'd have to sue him for custody! Lots of craziness to deal with.
It sounds like you guys (bonnie and colleen) have really worked through some of the hard stuff. Good to know that sitting in teh dark, watching teh christmas tree lights and crying with a new baby in my arms is not just me losing my grip... thanks.
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