Mon, Mar-24-08, 11:59
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Excellent idea! I had the same thing happen to me, and believe it or not I now make my living as a public spokesperson for a corporation.
The way I changed was simple, but doing it was hard. I came to realize that the difference between me and those people who are so great at networking and meeting new people is that I was afraid of people and how they might react to me, which was leading me to avoid saying anything at all. I didn't even know what to do when people greeted me, and wanted it to be over as quickly as possible.
What I figured out was that what matters is *not* letting the fear stop me. I started greeting new people, really listening to what they said, asking about their jobs then finding something good to say about what they said, and looking for any overlap between us. At first it was very hard to do, both saying anything at all as well as finding something to say next. The saying something and finding the follow on is now easier.
I am still afraid, but not as badly as I once was. No one except my husband knows that is the case. People think I am "a natural" at what I do in business social functions and in speaking engagements. Nope, lots of work there. But one of the things I'm finding is that there are a lot of people like me who do this for a living, or enhance their careers through networking. The key is taking a deep breath and doing it.
At first I found that I could only last 15 or 20 minutes at a business function. Now, no problem. And it has spilled into my personal social life. I am much happier for it.
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