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Sat, May-13-17, 12:50

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Book recommendations for dealing with the way that people treat us: before and after

Book recommendations for dealing with the way that people treat us: before and after we lose the weight?? Especially, dealing with unwanted attention from the opposite sex?

From my journal:

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i remember the very first time i lowcarbed, i got down to the low 140's and was a little freaked out by the amount of male attention i was getting all the time. i couldn't walk down the street without people wanting to talk to me. i'm introverted, and that was way out of my comfort zone.

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the extra padding is definitely something that people keep because it makes them less visible or noticeable. if you search the interwebs for 'unwanted male attention after losing weight' there are sooo many stories. lots from women who have been sexually abused, unfortunately. the extra fat makes people feel safer, and some people even call it a 'fat shield'. it's so awful that women feel safer when they're overweight, and that they purposely (either unconsciously or consciously) carry extra weight around to protect themselves. it's soo unhealthy. we know that being overweight is more dangerous to our health than smoking. i wonder if anyone has written any books about overcoming this aspect of being overweight. it would be worth reading, for sure.

i wish that people were all treated the same way regardless of their looks, but ya, when we're overweight, people do judge us as lazy, less than, etc. What i did like about the way that people treated me when i wasn't overweight, was that i got better service when i was shopping, and people were nicer overall. i'm still the same person now that i was then though. the extra attention is flattering at first, and it reinforced all the hard work of losing the weight in the first place, but it takes a lot of energy to fend off unwanted advances, flirtations, attention, etc.

i did a bit of a forum search and came up with:

"The Body Image Workbook: An 8-Step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks" http://forum.lowcarber.org/showthread.php?t=317572

I WISH I WERE THIN, I WISH I WERE FAT : THE REAL REASONS WE OVEREAT AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT (Paperback)
by Michelle Joy Levine http://forum.lowcarber.org/showthread.php?t=263255 the amazon reviews for this book are mixed, it seems like some people love it and some hate it.

and on the internet:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marce..._b_1383189.html

https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest...hate_being_hot/

i don't know if i regained the weight specifically because of this issue--i think probably not. but it's something i was thinking about, and thought i should address. i think it probably boils down to being assertive and comfortable in ones own skin regardless of looks? any other books or articles that i should have a look at? i've read lots of 'how to do keto' books but haven't done much reading about living as a thin, healthy, person....