Wed, Jun-27-12, 19:45
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Location: Florida
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I was a chubby kid... but I never dealt with bullying for it; mostly because my parents raised me to have the confidence to stand up for myself and not be ashamed. Plus, I was kind of sassy. I always said "I can drop the weight, but you can't change the fact that you're ugly/stupid/-insert hurtful comment here-"
Also, I had a mean right hook for anyone that I caught bullying someone. My principal called it "The best darn punch he'd ever seen thrown" because I broke some kid's nose after he pushed me and his niece off the jungle gym... That's the one thing I have to give to private schools run by a Baptist church; they certainly do allow children to stand up for themselves.
In public school, if you're defending yourself, getting the snot kicked out of you, or just trying to break it up. If you're "involved" in any sort of fight at all you're punished. Doesn't matter whether you're doing the right thing or had no choice in the matter. That's part of the problem with how bad bullying is these days. Their taught not to defend themselves; go run and tell a teacher who CAN'T do anything about you getting picked on; and even if they could they probably wouldn't.
It's ridiculous. The kids that get bullied can't win for losing, and that's why a lot of decent and smart kids drop out of high school. The environment is toxic.
I was an Honors and A.P. student and I dropped out because I kept being sent to administration for standing up for myself and others, even non-violently. I broke up two girls clawing at each other's faces, I got the same ISS as them, even though I probably kept one of them from winding up in the hospital because there were no nearby teachers to stop it. I got sent to the office for getting into a kids face who kept propositioning one of my shyer friends and was given detention. It's the system, it's broke. You get penalized for doing the right thing, for standing up for what's moral and right, and for not letting yourself or others get pushed around by someone who takes out all their insecurities on people they view as easy targets.
If standing up for yourself and those around you, as opposed to taking the abuse or turning a blind eye wasn't demonized in school, then bullying wouldn't be so bad.
Sorry about my tirade... I've just seen so much of the bullying, and the abuse that kids face in school and the way that these VICTIMS are treated has always been something that gets me super fired up.
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