hjackson, hello.
I do understand where you are coming from and I will pray for you.
Isn't it amazing some of the awful things human beings can do to an innocent victim and change that persons entire life....if we let them change it. I, personally, have decided that I am stronger now and wiser now and also, I am able to think as an adult, not the 5 year old child who was being molested by my great-uncle!
What he did was wrong and he is having to pay for that when he stands before my God and God says to him, "What did you do to MY daughter.........you were supposed to help protect those children! You have sinned against the children and you have sinned against ME!"
Your step-father will be at the hands of other prisoners and he may well learn what rape really does to a person when he is around the men who have been locked up for a very long time and, when they learn why he is in there, he becomes 'fair game' .
What goes around, comes around......................I just want to get on with my life now. I believe that you do too.
I would never try to tell you that your mother really loved you. You would know about that better than I would. Actually, even if she did love you and never let you know that, the end results are the same!! You grow up feeling unloved. Some people can't show love and some people can't feel love. I don't understand how that can happen but I know that it does.
Just realize, down deep in your heart, that it had nothing to do with who or what you were or what you did or what was done to you. It had to do with her. She failed you as a mother. I hope someday that you can forgive her....not forget, I know that takes a miracle but God is still in the miracle business.
I started doing productive things to make myself feel more normal. I began by helping others that needed help in different ways. Some had been burned out of their homes and needed help, others were people who needed a leg up because they had been living in a dump truck bed for several months and they had several young children. Etc. etc.
I began to study art and then teaching art and donating my artwork to charities to auction for special needs etc. I still teach and donate and have made many wonderful friends. I have come to realize that I am "alright" and I can be helpful to society. I am a 'useful' person and if you could feel the 'love' that I feel from my students and their families and the different charities that I have helped, you would know that life is really good.
I am still fighting the food problem but I am on the road to recovery, and to quote Martha Stewert, "That's a good thing."
Bless you,
Myrtih